I read an article last week that called for detachment at we shape our littles. My first reaction was,
seriously?! How’s a person supposed to manage that?
Then I read farther. The author pointed out how hard it is to step back and let kids learn on their own. We have this idea that parent involvement is critical, but I think it’s parental presence. we watched our kids entertain each other, practice being kind (and unkind!) to each other and explore together. My new favorite words?
S’il te plaÃ®t, Remy?
Ridiculous. And adorable.
Detachment means observing, advising, setting barriers and letting them figure it out. It’s hard. And I agree with the author: it’s critical.
All preaching aside, detachment isn’t my forte – it smells like patience. Detachment is also needed as one progresses through the steps of an adoption. We have a maybe baby – probably nothing. And yet, my brain is exploding. Only in adoption could you progress from thinking about adoption again to wondering if a potential birthmom is looking at your photo and saying,
in under two months. Remind me of the premature nerves in a year when we’re still waiting! See? Detachment. Works everywhere, right?