Well, Dave started the day by removing the beard for Tess first, me second and Becca third! Lol.
So today we tried to live a model day of the next 13 weeks or so. We talked the the house manager, went for morning care time…and then things went slightly askew. Not with Tess! She’s still breaking records for takin to the outside world.
We got a not-so-delightful nurse with a student who was not introduced, who barked at Dave for being nervous about holding his 5-day old, 2 lb baby, then looked irritated at our questions, and pretty much said we have no right to worry. Not awesome. Rounds was quick and boring, in the best way – because Tess is medically boring. Awesome. We grabbed some coffee, handled adoption and insurance calls, and tried to work a little.
Sadly, my VPN was not in a playing mood. I spent HOURS trying to sort out why lotus notes thinks I don’t exist, with and without IT help. No solution. Boo. So my Monday work is moving to Tuesday. Still, I suppose that can count as a workday of sorts, at least in terms of being able to concentrate for hours on something other than the nicu.
Due to the IT issues, we decided to try the other part of our grand plan: alternating cares. This will work better at every 3 hours than every 6. Dave took the 3pm, and it honestly felt like an eternity. (I’m writing this with an hour before evening care time, and it has been an eternity!)
When Dave came back to the hospital library where I was working, he was beaming. She pooped! Giant, messy, everywhere-change-the-sheets pooped! This is so not a biggie for a normal baby, but when no one knows if the baby can digest yet, it’s quite exciting. (not-fave nurse? “there will be lots of poop.” we have it on higher authority that excitement applies to digestion!) They taught Dave how to hold her so he’d be less nervous the next time – I’ll keep you posted!
Tess is getting more milk (more than a teaspoon now – 1 1/2 teaspoons!), and our birthmom needed a pump. The NICU set everything up so dave and I could do pick up and delivery, including giant bags of tiny bottles. We got a sonogram from when Tess was 22 weeks when we dropped off the pump, and can’t wait to see it. Thanks guys! Then we shot back to the house because Adji was here with our car! So nice to see a friend and my own comfy car. We had a nice Thai dinner to celebrate his arrival and now he’s headed home in the morning. Amazingly kind. Adam, thanks again for packing for us and organizing all of that!
All day, people tell us how cute Tess is. To me, she’s beautiful – but I wonder if other people see a baby or a little bird! Adji was laughing, but it’s amazing how we can’t even pretend to have perspective on this peanut. She looks different every day, and we think she’s starting to recognize us a little. Well, probably only our hands as that’s all she’s sees, but she responds to our touch! We can’t wait to hold her, but that’s a ways off.
While this is never something we’d wish upon anyone, this little wonder of a person is already changing our lives. And, to quote Adji, we will be able to use that against her when she gets bad grades in school. Ha!
Well, we’re off to tuck her in. More photos to come. 🙂 We miss all of you.